“When it comes to falling in love there are, I think, two kinds of people. The first one who has a well-laid plan by which they seek a partner that possesses certain preferred qualities and characteristics. Upon finding such a person, they pursue a cautious and measured courtship, waiting for signs of reassurance before giving in to feelings of attachment, never taking too much risk, slowly and incrementally revealing more about themselves, until a respectable time has passed and a sense of comfort has been attained, before ever coming near uttering those three powerful words, ‘I love you.’
The second kind has no such plan or patience for caution. They will think nothing of the risk being taken when investing in someone, nor will they bother to proceed carefully, but will choose instead to reveal everything about themselves to whomever wishes to know them. These are the people who believe in serendipity, who trust their feelings and are led by their heart, who are on a relentless quest to find, earn, and keep love in their lives. These are the people who do not tiptoe into love, but instead know only to dive in, head first, with abandon.”
- From the book Why I Love You by Gregory E. Lang
Why make this arbitrary distinction? Why must there only be two types of lovers, and, as an even worse offense, why such a cliché binary between the "thinking" and the "feeling"? Isn't the giddy joy and terror of falling in love precisely the gray space between the two?
On another note, I leave for Boston in 2.5 hours.
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Not to mention that the author seems clearly to think that the love of the second type is more genuine and more deeply felt. Fie!
Have you read Austen's Sense and Sensibility? At the very least, it's clear that Elinor's stolid good sense does not mean she doesn't feel love as deeply as Marianne does.
But then, I know nothing about the ways of love!
--except I know this: I love you and can't wait to meet you in Boston! Have a safe journey. And tell me how our rooms look!
I am neither of those things. I am just a lover. We've made that quite clear.
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